What Do I Do as I Wait?

Find out your Calling and begin living out your vision

It’s a shocking statistics on how many ladies in early 20’s out here are stressing and frustrated because they are not yet married. Wait a second, you said you are 21? Mmmmh, I hear you but please, pull a seat  for a second darling. I must say I am tempted to say out my age but in my next birthday which is August; I may do a special write-up and make it known. Truth is, many things happen that we can barely explain in life, we never find answers as to why some people will get married and have happy homes at barely 20 years and why others will wait till 30’s or even 40’s like one doctor who happened to share her story with us in church during a ladies conference. She is a doctor, very pretty and sold out to God but at 40years and still waiting and by all means living her life like today was her last day.

Because the timings are a mystery that limits us, then single unmarried women should pursue their own God given goals, ambitions, visions and dreams outside of marriage in their season of singlehood.  Ask yourself about what God has called you to do and pursue it. Coz for sure, we all know life doesn’t begin at marriage! Again I say, find your purpose and live life now, abundantly.

Because there is unique ways that God uses the single person differently from the married, stop saying that your calling is to be a wife. Look at your purpose for life outside marriage and do it now while you are single. If it is going for missions, this is the time you can take those leave days from work and go for missions far because your cares is on the things of God and not majorly on how to please a man ,your husband or take care of your child. If its mentorship, this is the time you can have those many ladies and teens come to your place for sleepovers and disciple them because of your flexibility.

We don’t find our purpose in marriage! Two people pursue their vision and at some point, their purposes connect them and marriage then happens as they help each other towards that vision. This is to basically say, as a woman, I will not find my identity in my husband but in God! And as such, there is need to find your calling now because marriage is not a calling. If we make it a calling, we would in a way be saying that an unmarried woman at 43 yrs who still awaits God for a mate has nothing to offer to the world because her calling is marriage, get what I mean?

 A career, good marriage, enviable relationship or even motherhood is not enough to totally satisfy you and God knows you will never be complete until you really understand that you are complete in Christ. “For in Him, all the fullness of Deity dwells in the bodily form…and in Him you have been made complete” (Colossians 2:9-10). It is this completeness in Christ that in essence gives you that drive to pursue your calling as you await marriage. Singlehood is no state of inadequacy.


And besides pursuit of Kingdom interest, enjoy what you love to do. Make the most of the time. Travel, even if it means zigzagging dusty roads in hard-to-pronounce places like Ole Ngurueini or leaving footprints on the beautiful white sandy beaches. By all means do it. Let’s enjoy sea adventure from Dar es Salaam to Zanzibar. Anything, pick up that cooking classes, let’s go down to Limuru for horse-riding and enjoy the season. Travel if it’s a hobby for you like it is for me. Make memories. Let your life be marked by joy and fulfillment of living life to the full. Be an interesting person all you can be, pick new interest and find joy in Christ and the little things life offers.

Whatever happens, identify your calling and pursue it. Don’t just sit waiting transition. There is life before marriage!

Your Truly,

Sisters’ Keeper!

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