What a Christian woman wants in a guy…Not things; One Thing

A Christian lady wants a man who zealously loves the Lord. A man who knows that a woman is a treasure, favor from God. A guy totally sold out for Jesus and lets the single Christian girl know that he is not afraid of big commitments; That sometimes, he is never sure about being a “good future husband or father “but is confident that with the help of God, they can work things together. A man who is on fire for God; who together with the girl will fuel their flame and become a potent fire for God and warm the lives and hearts of other people

 "The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives a favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).  

I hear some men saying how they are looking to find the Proverbs 31 woman. “Hey, wait a second bro.” My biggest question has been, as you seek for her, have you considered if you are the Proverbs 31 Husband like? We are told that;

 ¹¹ The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain. 

Dictionary meaning of trust is reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence. For a heart of a husband to trust a woman, there has to be such a deep love shared. You trust that she will bring you no harm because you love her truly. When he trusts her, he tells her everything and gets real with her. He is honest with her and trusts her with his vulnerability. There are no hidden skeletons that will be awakened from the closet later on.

When we trust someone, we believe that we can tell them anything but we are sure no matter how bad it gets, they got us.  Love is one solid character that every woman wants or rather hopes to find in a man. And only a man who loves the Lord so and understands that His love is meant to bring a little heaven in his family as in Ephesians 5:22-24…Showering his woman with love as Christ loves the church can. To love absolutely, shield, protect and nurture. Only a man who is spiritual and manly at the same time can be able to do this. Adores his wife like a treasure and ruby she is and like David also be a man after God's own heart (Acts 13:22).

I am not going to write 5 key things that Christian ladies look for in a man coz honestly, all she wants is a man who loves the Lord and will help her love the Lord Jesus the more. If it’s the Tall dark and Handsome Cliché’, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and my personal preference which by all means beside loving God is a sense of responsibility and  charming intelligence, every other woman has their wish list which is very different.

Someone sent me a message I thought was hilarious and said “maze,venye wewe hukuwa,maboys wengi hapa church hukuogopea tu mbali (The way you carry yourself , a lot of brothers in church fear you from a far). I laughed and thought; maybe it’s a good thing coz most definite, the man who is intimidated by who I am is the last person I’d be attracted to.  But I will make it easy for you here brothers, especially the shy ones…

If you really like a girl who is mature in faith and don’t know how to start… begin with friendship, just to get to know her a little, what she does, what she likes, her passions etc. If she is equally into you, her response will tell it within no time. Be very careful though on the questions you ask? I for one am sick of those who have hardly gotten to know your second name asking intimate questions that leave you sorry that you are in this generation. “How far have you gone in your previous relationships? I mean how close were you ?” Dude, like seriously, why are you even asking this question on our first conversation? And, you expect this chat to continue and well for that matter. Some things are very personal and you only get to talk about them when you are on another level altogether. It’s a deal breaker and the first flashing red light that will jeopardize every chance of something coming up. Let’s talk about your dreams, goals, fears and how I can or cannot fit into your vision. Let’s talk about possible hike at Mt Longonot, even football, pthow not how far do you think is too far in dating? Boundaries will be set when you and I are something else, not now when you don’t even know that I secretly love crunching my crisps in bed while catching a favorite movie or I love to squish ripe banana and honey for my homemade facial …Eaaasy man.

Then ask her out for a proper date…Truth is, most Christian ladies have stayed for way too long without being taken for a proper date and believe you me, she will be more than happy to dress up in that cute black dress and join you for the date. Free food is a good incentive; like really who doesn’t like food and plus, she will be happy to get to know you some more. Reason being, it takes a proper sound judgment for her to really accept to go on a date. And if she does accept, then chances are you are winning already.

P/s: I am not talking about lipstick Christian ladies but mature ladies who have been grounded in the faith and walk the talk…

That’s it for now.

Sincerely,

Sisters’ Keeper!