Tuesday, 29 August 2017

Single, Saved and Looking…Are your expectations Realistic?



Dear lady, 
Ready to mingle?  That brother may probably be clueless about where he wants to go
Most mature Christian ladies know what they want in life. They know when they are ready to start a family of their own. Most of them have an outline of their life and so will tend to look for a man who knows, or at least has a vague idea as to where he is heading. It is good by all means to have a plan of how the future is gonna look like but at the end, like Solomon, we shall say “Many are the plans in a man’s heart but it is God who establishes them” (Proverbs 19:21).  

Why I say this is the fact that most great men we read of in the Bible had seasons where they were clueless as to where they were heading.  I imagine Joseph, working as a male servant in Potiphar’s house had no clue how he was going to get to the high position God had revealed to him he would occupy. Let’s put ourselves in the shoes of David; tending sheep in the bush but deep down knowing he had been anointed king in place of Saul. His current situation was not anything close to what he envisioned. However, the ‘how’ of getting to the throne is something that he couldn’t figure out. He could only be faithful, obedient and trust that God was leading him through his daily encounters to that future of majestic reign. 

In the same way, as you are single, saved and looking to meet your other half or rib, my two cents is, be careful not to shove a brother aside because he seems clueless on where he is going. He may be in a wilderness season, tending sheep, but his future is great. Let his vision help you discern if you two have the potential of building a home together. 

Can you imagine David trying to propose to a woman in our generation? Some writer came up with this hilarious but painfully true picture of reality.
David: “Look babe…you know that I really care about you and want to spend the rest of my life taking care of you.”
Girl: That’s right.
David: As a matter of fact, I’ve just been anointed King…
Girl: Wow, I like where this is going.
David: …buuutttt I’m kinda living in the bushes right now looking after my dad’s sheep. I am also on the run from the King I’m supposed to replace. He wants to kill me but I have faith God will deliver me.”
Girl:  Oooh, I see.
David: Baby, will you marry me?
Girl:…
It would definitely be hard for such a man to convince a woman to marry him today. However, as we wait and look for him, it’s important to remember that God’s men don’t  ‘always’ have a direction or know the details per se. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Hebrews 11:1)In the same way that faith helps us to see things that are not as if they were, we ought to stop looking for men who have it all figured out! That’s faith.

This is not suggesting that you settle for any Harry who still lives in his mother’s house and has no plan whatsoever for his life but rather, Look for a man who can be LED by God (Romans 8:14). This is one who has his plans set but is ready to follow directions from the best architect —God.
As you  look, watch out on your expectations towards that marriage altogether.

Remember:
·         The same way you are looking for a Boaz ,that brother who is praying for a Ruth is also watching out for a Delilah. Let your testimony bear witness that you are a daughter who delights in the law of her heavenly father and walks in His precepts. They look out for the testimony of the woman’s character. You are the light of the world…so let you light so shine that people may see and glorify your father in Heaven (Matthew 5: 14-16). Your character determines who you attract.

·         Be ready to be led(by God and submit to man) if settling down is what you are looking for. Even the most uncultured man born in the desert of Kalahari before the invention of modernity knows inwardly that they have been born to take a leading role at home. 

·         Many young, married Christian women are just painting a fairy tale picture of marriage to their single ladies friends on social media. Wanting you to see how dreamy, seemingly perfect and glamorous marriage is through the filtered pix on Instagram. Consequence.You end up waiting for perfection. Very few will sit you down and talk about the significance of a praying wife, a strong wife, a submissive wife (to a Godly man) and how, contrary to popular view, the faith of a wife is a strong weapon for the family. (Refer to the movie ‘WAR ROOM’)

·         That man knows a wedding is one day event but marriage is a full time engagement. He knows that wedding isn’t marriage and doesn’t want to create an impression he can’t maintain. A glamorous wedding doesn’t imply a glamorous marriage.

Wishing all my readers that are in the process of looking or being looked well.

Love

Sisters’ Keeper

TrippleS115

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