Dear lady,
Ready to mingle? That brother may probably be clueless about
where he wants to go
Most mature Christian ladies know
what they want in life. They know when they are ready to start a family of
their own. Most of them have an outline of their life and so will tend to look
for a man who knows, or at least has a vague idea as to where he is heading. It
is good by all means to have a plan of how the future is gonna look like but at
the end, like Solomon, we shall say “Many
are the plans in a man’s heart but it is God who establishes them”
(Proverbs 19:21).
Why I say this is the fact that
most great men we read of in the Bible had seasons where they were clueless as
to where they were heading. I imagine Joseph,
working as a male servant in Potiphar’s house had no clue how he was going to
get to the high position God had revealed to him he would occupy. Let’s put
ourselves in the shoes of David; tending sheep in the bush but deep down knowing
he had been anointed king in place of Saul. His current situation was not anything
close to what he envisioned. However, the ‘how’ of getting to the throne is
something that he couldn’t figure out. He could only be faithful, obedient and trust
that God was leading him through his daily encounters to that future of
majestic reign.
In the same way, as you are single,
saved and looking to meet your other half or rib, my two cents is, be careful
not to shove a brother aside because he seems clueless on where he is going. He
may be in a wilderness season, tending sheep, but his future is great. Let his vision
help you discern if you two have the potential of building a home together.
Can you
imagine David trying to propose to a woman in our generation? Some writer came
up with this hilarious but painfully true picture of reality.
David:
“Look babe…you know that I really care about you and want to spend the rest of
my life taking care of you.”
Girl:
That’s right.
David:
As a matter of fact, I’ve just been anointed King…
Girl:
Wow, I like where this is going.
David:
…buuutttt I’m kinda living in the bushes right now looking after my dad’s
sheep. I am also on the run from the King I’m supposed to replace. He wants to
kill me but I have faith God will deliver me.”
Girl:
Oooh, I see.
David:
Baby, will you marry me?
Girl:…
It would
definitely be hard for such a man to convince a woman to marry him today. However,
as we wait and look for him, it’s important to remember that God’s men don’t ‘always’ have a direction or know the details
per se. Faith is the substance of things
hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (Hebrews 11:1)In the same way
that faith helps us to see things that are not as if they were, we ought to
stop looking for men who have it all figured out! That’s faith.
This is
not suggesting that you settle for any Harry who still lives in his mother’s
house and has no plan whatsoever for his life but rather, Look for a man who
can be LED by God (Romans 8:14). This is one who has his plans set but is ready
to follow directions from the best architect —God.
As you look, watch out on your expectations towards that marriage altogether.
Remember:
·
The same way you are looking for a Boaz ,that
brother who is praying for a Ruth is also watching out for a Delilah. Let your
testimony bear witness that you are a daughter who delights in the law of her heavenly
father and walks in His precepts. They look out for the testimony of the
woman’s character. You are the light of
the world…so let you light so shine that people may see and glorify your father
in Heaven (Matthew 5: 14-16). Your character determines who you attract.
·
Be
ready to be led(by God and submit to man) if settling down is what you are looking for. Even the most uncultured
man born in the desert of Kalahari before the invention of modernity knows inwardly that
they have been born to take a leading role at home.
·
Many young, married Christian
women are just painting a fairy tale picture of marriage to their single ladies
friends on social media. Wanting you to see how dreamy, seemingly perfect and glamorous marriage is through the filtered pix on Instagram. Consequence.You end up waiting for
perfection. Very
few will sit you down and talk about the significance of a praying wife, a
strong wife, a submissive wife (to a Godly man) and how, contrary to
popular view, the faith of a wife is a strong weapon for the family. (Refer to the
movie ‘WAR ROOM’)
·
That
man knows a wedding is one day event but marriage is a full time engagement. He
knows that wedding isn’t marriage and doesn’t want to create an impression he can’t
maintain. A glamorous wedding doesn’t imply a glamorous marriage.
Wishing all my readers that are in the process of looking or being looked well.
Love
Sisters’
Keeper
TrippleS115
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