Is it true that you want to date Jesus and not a Jesus Disciple?

Is it true that you want to date Jesus and not a Jesus Disciple?

No and Yes. No because, we just want to see the radiance of Christ in your life brother; Even just a little ray giving a glimpse of the Jesus in you. You see, when you have been called to be an inxusa (Zulu word for ambassador), you represent that person, nation and in this case Christ by showing a reflection of Him in your life. Generally, we would expect you to have a thing that tells of the person you represent. The same way the hands that give roses always have fragrance of it left kind of thing. All we want is to smell the scent that an encounter with Jesus left. And yes, it’s the fruits you bear that testifies of the Christ you profess. We don’t want the verbatim declaration of Jesus is Lord.  For verily, "Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. (Matthew 7:21)

Yes because sadly, some of us are aiming for perfection from imperfect brothers. As I have written many times, women need to find completeness in Christ. It is incorrect to go out with the mentality of perfection. It’s not alright to expect a man to satisfy all your longings, complete you, make you happy etc. Is he your Jesus or a prototype of Jesus? And if he is an idol of Jesus, then what is the Real SON OF God expected to fulfill in your life? Wisdom is accepting a brother with his flaws and strength. Endeavor not for perfection but working out with someone who is striving for perfection as we both look up to Jesus, our perfect example. Honestly, no matter how organized a guy is, at some point you will be disappointed with each other. He will disappoint you. You will disappoint him. He will act contrary to your expectations and so will you.

If you are a “Ruth”(one who desires marriage) to a potential “Boaz”(Mate) stop behaving like a “Delilah”(archaeologist)!

 A delilah is a relentless digger. She finds out every flaw about the potential suitor and decides that saying yes to this will be settling for less. The first suitor was not financially endowed. The second had macho issues. The third one was addicted to his gadget didn’t give me attention. Well, I am an introvert and I love quality time and attention. However, I will be very wrong to assume I am flawless. There are times I wouldn’t answer my calls even from a very special person; Not because I didn’t hear or the number is unknown. But rather, I just felt a mess and had exhausted my radiation saturation for the day as someone close likes to say. Of course that is insensitive to the other party especially if you are very tight but tagging me as moody and focusing on that occasional meanness may end up seeing you lose the big picture about me. Trying to dig out the flaws on another and forgetting yours is nothing close to godly.

Ask all this married people and see. There is always a place of compromise and that is when love covering the multitude of sin (weakness) comes in . “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8) If she is a spendthrift and your area of strength is economics, then help cover that weakness. What I am saying is this, before you get too picky and antagonistically judgmental; remove the plank in your eyes before pointing on the others speck.

 "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?( Matthew 7:3)

Stop finding imperfections with everyone. The faults will be there but get one that you can extend grace and help cover. For verily I say, you will not find perfection expect in Christ. All of us have flaws and in need have grace. We all need a Savior.

So yes, don’t settle for someone who has nothing that tells of the Christ they profess. Jesus Himself says that you will know them by their fruits. And the fruit of the Holy Spirit is Love, Peace, Joy, forbearance, Goodness, Kindness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.(Galatians 5:22). But also don’t say no to the entire camp of brothers because you did not like a thing or two about them. We will marry Jesus in eternity but if we want marriage for the world, I guarantee you we can only marry His disciples.

Yours Truly,

Sisters' Keeper

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