Valentines and the single lady…

“Love is a magical feeling and by all means  totally incredible! We long to be loved and enjoy the affection as human. However, as a modern day Ruth, I want you to know that you are complete in Christ, lacking in nothing. Yes, your singlehood is not and will not be a state of inadequacy. Never! That is a lie of the society and the trap of the enemy”

 “Phewks, it is here again🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄 (Rolling eyes) and God knows I could do with some hibernation until the hype is over.” sulks Heav. “I just want to go to Mars”, she simply said. Well, it’s here with us again; that time where like my friend Heav, most single Christian ladies would wish that romantic love wouldn’t be overrated to an extent that you feel inadequate in your singleness. You know, that feeling like you have been away in Mars and missed half a century of life on earth that you need to catch up on. Falling in love and posting pix of you and yours become the in thing. That almost every update is about my Bae.💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

Like Heav and many girlfriends who are bold enough to speak their hearts out, truth is, we feel out of place whenever February ticks and you realize, “damn, am gona be spending this valentine alone! “

Like any girl, we dread sitting by your office buried in work just to avoid the glamor around and excitement amongst most engaged chaps. Deep down, you also long for someone to call you late-night and tell you sweet nothings, falling asleep with someone’s voice being your lullaby. You know, that you too can leave work and be met with a coronet of roses from your bae, some random “I am thinking of you” texts or shared time of intimate dinner and affirmations of your love for each other! Sounds great, every normal girl’s fairy tale and fantasy I suppose. And sometimes the ache in your heart nags at you and reminds you of the love you used to have. Unfortunately, some nights you fall asleep with tears running down your face but you don’t let anyone know coz you trust in His promises.With Christ,life gets beautiful somehow like the ecstatic sunset over the Indian Ocean at Watamu.

Beautiful sunset in Watamu

They say all human being crave for love. We want to feel wanted and loved; to be told we are amazing; Pretty much normal but even crazier with women. Jane Austen writes “A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.” This explains why I address the ladies in this piece. Well, this Valentines, I too will be alone. Ouch the thought of it already sucks but that’s just the way it is, lol. I would appreciate roses, maybe a simple cake from Caffe deli or perhaps some chocolate, hold hands with someone special and just feel nice…hehehe but I guess after a normal day at work, I will head home.  In my comfortable bath robe, I will be strumming my guitar and guzzling steamy coffee as I sing hymns that remind me that am loved by God so deeply” Walking in faith is great. Instead of feeling empty, I will be experiencing the power of God’s love envelope me as I sing lyrics of deep hymns like

I stand in the Garden alone, when the dews are still on the roses,

And the voice I hear, falling on my ears,

The son of God discloses,

And He walks with me, and He talks with me, and He tells me that I am His own,

And the joy that we share as we tarry there, none other has ever known.

Such overwhelming words of assurance and pure undefiled love; A Fathers love, a friend’s love, a saviors love, the God kind of love that last for eternity. The love which I can only define with one adjective, unconditional!  That love that Paul the Apostle prays we experience.

Ephesians 3 “And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.”

A little wading in the waters

That love; pure bliss for anyone whose eyes have been opened to the love of God, the unadulterated love

You may say that I am lonely but I will say it’s not true. I possibly could be overwhelmed by feelings of aloneness but certainly not lonely. I know for a fact it could be more beautiful with a fleshy and I mean a man’s fellowship with warmth and physical conversation but that is not to say I am lonely. It’s possible to be alone and not lonely. He is there with me. Late into the night as stars make their grant entrance, I sing and make music unto Him and I feel His invisible hug around my shoulders. His silent affirmations of love incomparable; Love that protects, love that shields, love that comforts, love that forgives, love that heals, love that rejoices, love that feels all voids, love that fades not, Love unconditional.

He reminds me that” For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity dwells in bodily form. 10And you have been made complete in Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority”; that in Christ I am complete lacking in nothing and that is peaceful enough.

The season of romantic love in the air cannot and should not elevate the mindset of inadequacy as a single Christian lady. I am blessed and complete.

Madafu time

Pretty much, I may be indoors missing the company of Bae but in all sense feeling complete inside. The feeling of having someone share your life, excitements, joys and fears is great and I am definitely eager about that experience. However, am equally glad am complete in Christ even in his absentia. When he comes, then he will compliment me. I will be thrilled to stay late into the night talking to him, I will be excited to hear him call me his chere’ and certainly will enjoy the new season with another adult who is not my family becoming a priority all of a sudden and hopefully, I will in effect be jolly to say I do to him and give my beautiful smile to the crowd as my daddy walks me down the aisle towards the lucky guy..lol.

Boardwalk at Mida Creek

Meanwhile, let’s do something unique like going horse racing down in Karen. Touch the dews, smell the roses and enjoy yummy creamy cake. It can be a good interest to pick instead of feeling lost in the Feb love hype.

Love God, love self, love others and before you know it, love will come knocking at the door. Girlfriends in God, you are not inadequate in your singlehood.

Yaay, love is in the air, great feeling indeed. Hope for the best, love unconditionally, wishing you love by the next fall so that you too can knot at Panary Anga Sky with yours, munching popcorn and critiquing a movie at the cinema with that “Boaz”.

Meanwhile, love your life, you are complete in CHRIST! Plus that means wearing ugly PJs and sleeping in the middle of the bed!yaay

From my heart to yours

Happy Love month pips!!💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓